Decide for family or friend HELP?

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Decide for family or friend HELP?

I need help please advice, I'm already crying at night... I still live with my parents but I'm often at my boyfriend's house. We had a heated argument. It escalated a lot with violence and also REASON. Alcohol when he's drunk he doesn't know what He says can't control himself. It really escalated a lot because of nothing, he also sees his mistake and I also think that I shouldn't have hit him... It's always the same reason for the dispute. My mother found out about it and told me that if I couldn't end things with him straight away I pack my things and should never come back and if something happens to him again then I should forget about her because she doesn't see any future there. I can't do it without him, he can't do it without me, what should I do? My mother is serious but I think it's so unfair and I feel so overwhelmed by the decision... her reason: She doesn't want any more drama



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I would take the warning seriously. If you are already having regular arguments over serious problems like alcohol and it has now become violent, then it may actually be better to bite the bullet and end the matter.



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Your friend is an alcoholic and needs treatment and therapy. Since he doesn't have himself under control, drop him and look for a sensible friend.



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I can understand your mother. She wants to protect you from worse things.

You better take her warning seriously.



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It sounds like he gets drunk a lot. If that is the case, I can fully understand your mother and would seek distance herself and end the relationship.

Your age would be good to know; if you are a minor, she can more or less decide what you do.

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WIf you are of age and take arguments to your parents, I can also understand your mother here. I probably wouldn't feel like it either. Then I would also advise you to look for an apartment with him or move in with him (if you still want to be with him).

But purely from the text it doesn't seem like there is a future.

Lg



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He actually only drinks a lot when we go out partying...



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Dan doesn't go out to party anymore, or he doesn't drink at parties anymore... you have to be so grown up to realize that. Alcohol and I are not friends



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Yes, that's the problem. He's promised 50 times he won't drink any more and it's always the same thing... then a beer after work, eating alcohol and when we're around people it escalates completely. This time he said he really wanted to see if I believed itben can?



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he should go to therapy, otherwise you'll break up



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This is clearly in the direction of alcoholics. I can promise you that, because unfortunately I've had a lot of experience with it.

But it's up to you.



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If I were you, I would give myself time to think!

Because alcohol usually shows people's true colors. Unfortunately that is the case. And if that's the case and your friend is basically just pretending to be someone else, you don't need it. There are so many on earth. You will find your soulmate soon.

LG and good luck 🍀

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